Company event A got drunk. He hugged and took photos with C and S. Too close for comfort.
He was drunk beyond hope. I called SJ to ask him how much A drank and if possible to not let him get drunk because he can’t hold his liquor well. He hugged other girls, that makes me and his mum unhappy. A was furious when he came to realize I made the call and snatched his phone from me, ‘I’ll manage her’
He looked at me in the eye, talked down to me, ‘do you want me to lose my job? This is inappropriate. He is the operational manager and you don’t talk to him or anyone from the plant.’
That moment, I knew I lost him. I am second to his work. He does not care about his philandering ways that inflicted so much pain on me but my misdeeds that could potentially cause him his job.
Since when he became so obsessed about holding on to his job? A year or so earlier he was ranting about quitting and finding another job. Why has a promotion bring so much changes in him, the wardrobe altercation, the cologne and nicely set hair. It became so obvious that even his mum could tell the difference, of him dressing up for work. Is it to impress C? He doesn’t want to lose this job because he will not be able to see C anymore? And the unexplained condoms in his work bag.. it is just too unsettling. I’m dumbfounded on so many changes that’s happening and the many unanswered questions.
I sat at the lift lobby for a good 20mins, stared into blank spaces. Repeatedly asked myself, what has this relationship become?
He can find a girlfriend or wife as easily, but he can’t lose his job. Is this the kind of man I’d want to live with, for the rest of my life? Taking a humble pie now, is fine. But pardon the misbehaviors and allowing things to manifest to something bigger, is not.
Yan has warned and we concurred that our hunch was right. He’s out to impress girls. The confidence in physique, the need to go gym to pump his muscles no matter how tired he was, the grooming and upkeeping, frequent trips to the hair salon (that is more than mine).
I have lost both faith and trust in this. I have no strength to continue on. For the many upcoming battles I have to engage in, the anxiety and all is making me delusional. I’m falling into the loop of being a crazy girlfriend. I have stayed steadfast in this relationship and not venturing anywhere near the boundaries with other guys. All I wish is the same respect given back to me.
I would have returned the Si Dian Jin and Pin Jin to his mum and collected my things if not for the call he made, saying he does not want to break up. It’s better for the both of us to cool our heads, sit down and think what’s the best for our future. Giving up now is painful, but would be more so if we adamantly go ahead with marriage or having a child. I will take my belongings back from his house either tomorrow or Friday evening. Putting a closure might be the best for all of us. Even if it means I have to work my butt off to pay for the housing, I’d do it.